Why are we...
- - Getting stuck in the same patterns?
- - Distant or lonely when we used to be so close?
- - Having the same fight over again?
- - Not communicating like we used to?
Couples counseling can help you…
- - Re-connect and strengthen your bond
- - Improve communication and conflict management
- - Learn how to better support and meet one another’s needs
- - Restore trust and confidence in the relationship
Questions you may have….
- 1. Is it too late to change?
- 2. Are we too different?
- 3. Did we make a mistake?
How we communicate and argue can become entrenched habits, just like any other behavior we've continued for so many years. Like any other habit, how we relate to our partners can be difficult to change without conscious effort and awareness. But also like any other habit, change becomes easier the more we practice.
Every relationship will have differences - whether differences in lifestyle, personality, religion, political beliefs, social values, etc. Similar to conflict, HOW we manage those differences is often more important than what those differences are. Differences can also strengthen a relationship, as partners have different perspectives, skills, and backgrounds.
When conflicts emerge, as they inevitably will, it can be easy to wonder if our partners are "wrong" for us. Although it may be true that you may not have the same conflict if you were with a different partner, it is certainly likely that you will have other conflicts. My approach to couples counseling is to help partners learn how to approach conflict differently, based on what their needs, communication styles, and past experiences. Rather than tear us apart, conflict can strengthen bonds and increase understanding and connection.
Couples counseling can be helpful at any stage in a relationship, whether you've been together for just a few years or have been married for 20 years. It is natural to be nervous or have questions. Please feel free to schedule an initial consultation, where we can discuss your concerns.